MILESTONES OF CHILDREN FROM AGE 9 TO AGE 11
Your child’s growing independence from the
family and interest in friends might be obvious by now. Healthy friendships
are very important to your child’s development, but peer pressure can become
strong during this time. Children who feel good about themselves are more
able to resist negative peer pressure and make better choices for themselves.
This is an important time for children to gain a sense of responsibility
along with their growing independence. Also, physical changes of puberty
might be showing by now, especially for girls. Another big change children
need to prepare for during this time is starting middle or junior high
During this time, your child might:
Form stronger, more complex friendships and
peer relationships. It becomes more emotionally important to have friends,
especially of the same sex.
Experience more peer pressure.
Become more independent from the family.
Become more aware of his or her body as puberty
approaches. Body image and eating problems sometimes start around this
Face more academic challenges at school.
|You can help your child become independent,
while building his or her sense of responsibility and self-confidence at
the same time. Here are some suggestions:
Spend time with your child. Talk with her
about her friends, her accomplishments, and what challenges she will face.
Be involved with your child’s school. Go to
school events; meet your child’s teachers.
Encourage your child to join school and community
groups, such as a team sport, or to take advantage of volunteer opportunities.
Help your child develop his own sense of right
and wrong. Talk with him about risky things friends may pressure him to
do, like smoking or dangerous physical dares.
Help your child develop a sense of responsibility—involve
your child in household tasks. Talk to your child about saving and spending
Meet the families of your child’s friends.
Talk with your child about respecting others.
Encourage your child to help people in need. Talk with him or her about
what to do when others are not kind or are disrespectful.
Help your child set his own goals. Encourage
him to think about skills and abilities he would like to have and about
how to develop them.
Make clear rules and stick to them. Talk to
your child about what you expect from her when no adults are supervising.
If you provide reasons for rules, it will help your child to know what
to do in those situations.
Use discipline to guide and protect your child,
instead of punishment to make him feel badly about himself.
Talk with your child about the normal physical
and emotional changes of puberty.
Encourage your child to read every day. Talk
with her about her homework.
Be affectionate and honest with your child,
and do things together as a family.
|Child Safety First
|More independence and less adult supervision
can put children at risk for injuries from falls and other accidents. Motor
vehicle crashes are the most common cause of death from unintentional injury
among children of this age.
Protect your child in the car. All children
younger than 12 years of age should ride in the back seat with a seat belt
properly fastened. Children should ride in a car seat or booster seat until
they are 4 feet 9 inches tall (because adult seat belts do not fit people
under this height). Visit the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration
for more information.
Know where your child is and whether an adult
is present. Make plans with your child for when he will call you, where
you can find him, and what time you expect him home.
Many children get home from school before
their parents get home from work. It is important to have clear rules and
plans for your child when she is home alone. Visit KidsHealth: When It’s
Just You After School for safety tips for your child at home when you can’t
|Article Source - U.S. CPSC