CHILDREN FROM AGE 9 TO AGE 11
Your child’s growing independence from the family and interest in friends
might be obvious by now. Healthy friendships are very important to your
child’s development, but peer pressure can become strong during this time.
Children who feel good about themselves are more able to resist negative
peer pressure and make better choices for themselves. This is an important
time for children to gain a sense of responsibility along with their growing
independence. Also, physical changes of puberty might be showing by now,
especially for girls. Another big change children need to prepare for during
this time is starting middle or junior high school.
During this time, your child might:
Form stronger, more complex friendships and peer relationships. It becomes
more emotionally important to have friends, especially of the same sex.
Experience more peer pressure.
Become more independent from the family.
Become more aware of his or her body as puberty approaches. Body image
and eating problems sometimes start around this age.
Face more academic challenges at school.
You can help your child become independent, while building his or her
sense of responsibility and self-confidence at the same time. Here are
Child Safety First
Spend time with your child. Talk with her about her friends, her accomplishments,
and what challenges she will face.
Be involved with your child’s school. Go to school events; meet your child’s
Encourage your child to join school and community groups, such as a team
sport, or to take advantage of volunteer opportunities.
Help your child develop his own sense of right and wrong. Talk with him
about risky things friends may pressure him to do, like smoking or dangerous
Help your child develop a sense of responsibility—involve your child in
household tasks. Talk to your child about saving and spending money wisely.
Meet the families of your child’s friends.
Talk with your child about respecting others. Encourage your child to help
people in need. Talk with him or her about what to do when others are not
kind or are disrespectful.
Help your child set his own goals. Encourage him to think about skills
and abilities he would like to have and about how to develop them.
Make clear rules and stick to them. Talk to your child about what you expect
from her when no adults are supervising. If you provide reasons for rules,
it will help your child to know what to do in those situations.
Use discipline to guide and protect your child, instead of punishment to
make him feel badly about himself.
Talk with your child about the normal physical and emotional changes of
Encourage your child to read every day. Talk with her about her homework.
Be affectionate and honest with your child, and do things together as a
More independence and less adult supervision can put children at risk
for injuries from falls and other accidents. Motor vehicle crashes are
the most common cause of death from unintentional injury among children
of this age.
Article Source - U.S. Department of Health And Human
Protect your child in the car. All children younger than 12 years of age
should ride in the back seat with a seat belt properly fastened. Children
should ride in a car seat or booster seat until they are 4 feet 9 inches
tall (because adult seat belts do not fit people under this height). Visit
the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration for more information.
Know where your child is and whether an adult is present. Make plans with
your child for when he will call you, where you can find him, and what
time you expect him home.
Many children get home from school before their parents get home from work.
It is important to have clear rules and plans for your child when she is
home alone. Visit KidsHealth: When It’s Just You After School for safety
tips for your child at home when you can’t be there.
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